When you call a Domestic Violence or Dating Violence hotline, one of the first questions they ask is if you are in safe place and can talk. Once they determine that you can talk safely without getting “in trouble” with your abuser, the dialog starts. It isn’t easy to leave an abusive relationship. There are many things to consider. Regarding Domestic Violence, some of the victims concerns could be: where they will live, how to take care of their kids, having enough money, staying safe, possibly finding a job, and legal issues, among many, many other things. This is where a safety plan comes into play. A safety plan is something that the victim and their DV advocate come up with together in order to stay safe in their abusive relationship while they make the necessary plans to leave the abuser. It is a very important step in trying to ensure the success of their effort to escape their abuser.
The same thing can be said of a Teen Dating Violence Relationship.
Most importantly, do not try to leave an abusive relationship alone! Get help via a hotline, friends, and family. If you have the support from someone, leaving is easier. Make your own safety plan. You can do it with a DV advocate, school counselor, police (if necessary), or with the help of friends and family. Plan out what you will do if you see your abuser at school, work, or other functions. It could be as simple as walking away and having someone to call. Since abuser seek to maintain power and control over their victim, having a support system takes some of that power away.
Another consideration is the extent of the abuse you are experiencing. IF your life is in danger, staying at school might not be a safe option. Transferring or home schooling might be good choices. Talk to your local DV agency, school counselor, or call the National Hotline at 1-866-331-9474. Work out a safety plan with a professional. Find a strong support system with friends and family and then make the best choices you can for your own safety.